Woman On Top
Woman On Top Sex Positions
One of the things that men often don't understand about sex is that reaching orgasm may not be as important for a woman as it is for her partner.
There are plenty of ways in which women get satisfaction from sex, including the feeling of being close to their partner, the sense of having him inside her, seeing him getting pleasure from reaching orgasm and ejaculating in her pussy, bringing him to orgasm with her hand or mouth, or just enjoying feeling his attention to her, and possibly his love for her.
It's a clich้ that men find their love through having sex, while women want to have sex because they love a man, but there's a surprising amount of truth in it.
Sexual intercourse can open up a man to his feelings dominance and tenderness or a sense of his own masculinity during man on top sex, a sense of acceptance and love for his partner during woman on top sex, possibly feelings of male power during rear entry sex, and maybe a gentler, more loving side of his nature during side-by-side sex and so on, and so forth.
But even though women may be driven more by what I'd call a passive attitude to sex - at least compared to a man's more active attitude to sex - there will always be times when a woman wants to be on top as a lover!
And nothing suits that role more than the variety of woman on top sex positions that are available to her. (Click on the photos to enlarge them.)
A woman who is feeling highly sexually charged, a woman who knows she can reach orgasm during sex if she has the opportunity to move more freely during intercourse, a woman who wants to express her dominant side - well, all will enjoy woman on top sex positions.
And no doubt there are many, many other reasons why a woman can enjoy woman on top sex:
A powerful thing about the woman on top range of techniques for intercourse that in almost every variation the woman has the ability to determine how fast sex proceeds.
As another way to make love, she can change the rhythm and pace of movement, and get as much or as little stimulation to her clitoris or vagina as she wishes always provided of course, that her man doesn't have a tendency to ejaculate too quickly, or conversely doesn't experience retarded ejaculation.
And when a woman isn't pinned down by her man being on top of her, she can move her body against his so that she either gets stimulation to her G spot internally, or stimulation to her clitoris externally.
And all that's very nice for her, of course, but there's something else she can do: she can tease her man.
When she's on top she can move up and down his erection quickly or slowly, she can move her hips in various ways, including in a circular pattern, and she can speed up and slow down her movements as he nears orgasm, which means she can keep him on the brink of ejaculation until she releases his tension by stimulating him over the edge and into his orgasm.
That is truly a wonderful sexual technique for making love great for men and women alike.
It's hard, perhaps, for men to appreciate how powerful woman on top sexual positions are for women, since men are accustomed to taking most of the power and dominance in sex most of the time.
What's equally hard for most men to appreciate is how good it can be for them to give up control, to relax into the feminine warmth of their partner's embrace, and to allow her to take them to orgasm.
Indeed, for some men it's a real struggle to give up control. If you're one of them, and you feel, for example, the need to thrust even when your partner is on top doing all the work, then make a conscious decision to give up your dominant attitude to sex, and lie back and enjoy what your partner is giving you.
This can be very transformational: you can move from constantly "giving" during sex to a place where you "take" pleasure more. For some men that is very important - they have given all their lives.
And after all, sex is about equality, not about male dominance, and it's certainly not about the man satisfying the woman or rather, it shouldn't be about the man satisfying the woman.
It should be about partners satisfying and giving pleasure to each other: woman on top sex is one way in which this can happen.
Woman on Top Sexual Positions In Pictures
So here's what we probably all think of as the basic woman on top sex position. The woman is sitting on her man, facing him, and she can control the depth to which his penis penetrates her by moving gently - or fiercely - up-and-down.
By leaning either forwards or backwards as shown in the illustrations, she can also change the sensations which both she and her man enjoy during intercourse.
And of course, as she leans further backwards or forwards, the way in which she moves can change. Instead of riding up and down her partner's erect penile shaft, she can ride him backwards and forwards along the length of his shaft. This may actually be important for a man whose penis normally stands rigid and upright against his belly, because when he is laying down, it may not be comfortable if his partner sits upright with his erection inside her pussy.
Now, interestingly enough, this is a good position for men to engage in a little premature ejaculation control training.
When the woman is on top, she can slow down the man's headlong race to orgasm and ejaculation by slowing down her pelvic movements. In short, reducing the stimulation that his penis receives from the movement of her tight vagina around his erection. This is a great strategy for slowing up lovemaking and extending coitus.
This means that his level of arousal will reduce somewhat, and his approach to the point of no return (aka the point of ejaculatory inevitability) will not be as fast or as uncontrolled.
In addition, by using PC muscle contractions, a man will be able to reduce the hardness of his erection which will also contribute to a reduction in the level of his arousal.
All of this should enable him to control his ejaculation and last longer in bed without any danger of ejaculating sooner than he or his partner wishes.
How much stimulation the man can give to her breasts, belly, and buttocks not to mention her clitoris obviously depends on the angle between her body and his, and whether she's facing away from him or towards him.
It's worth pointing out that some women might be self-conscious in the woman on top sexual posture because they see their breasts as droopy, their belly as saggy, or their buttocks as flabby.
If you're a man and your partner shows any resistance to woman on top sex, and you think it might be for those reasons, get her to read this statement:
Men are not concerned with what a woman's body looks like when they are making love. When men are having sex, they're focusing on having sex, not on the finer - or not so fine - points of their partner's appearance!
Having said that, of course, as a man you'll always want to reassure your partner that you find her attractive and that her body is extremely desirable.
One of the great things about woman on top sex is that although it gives the opportunity for vigorous movement and thrusting by the woman, there's also plenty of opportunity for much more gentle movement, and indeed for the couple just to rest together while his erection remains inside her vagina, as she lies on top of him.
In this position, the couple can kiss, embrace and stroke each other, look into each other's eyes, and generally enjoy the pleasure of each other's bodies.
Another thought - woman on top sex is absolutely fabulous for couples who are pregnant, and especially when both of them enjoy the sight of the swelling body of the woman.
The bump doesn't get in the way, the woman has control, especially over the depth of penetration, which can be really good for her comfort, and she can move just as much or as little as she likes. In short, of all the sex positions you can use during pregnancy, woman on top is many people's favorite.
Here Are Some Variations of Woman on Top Sex Positions
Just as in those sex positions when the man is on top, if the woman keeps her legs close together, her vagina will be much tighter, and the physical sensations which both she and her partner receive will be correspondingly greater.
Of course, one of the dangers of a tight vagina is that it can prompt a man to ejaculate quite quickly, so it might be useful to reserve this particular aspect of woman on top sex for the climax of your lovemaking (pun completely and utterly intended).
Of course, if a woman likes to feel her man inside her, and likes to feel her vagina filled with her partner's erection, this is a very handy way of doing it while giving him great pleasure as well.
As the woman leans backwards, you can see that this is going to put more pressure on the man's penis, and more pressure on the lower side of her vagina.
Since not all women have the same levels of sensitivity in different parts of their vaginas, this may be very pleasurable for her once again, the only way to know is to experiment, and what a glorious experiment it is!
In the picture below, as you can see, the woman has turned around and is facing away from the man.
As she leans towards his feet she'll probably experience more pressure on the upper side of her vagina, which happens to be where her G spot is located.
If she then moves in a way that gives her pleasure, it's even possible that she will reach orgasm although she may need to be very aroused before she starts her rhythm of sexual movements to achieve this.
It's also very important to make sure that the woman doesn't lean too far backwards or forwards because this may suddenly produce an uncomfortable bend in the angle of the man's erection. There's nothing that a man needs less than a damaged penis.
In this situation, if you're the man, for goodness' sake be sensible and tell your partner to stop moving at the first sense you have of any discomfort.
And if you're the woman, please be aware that the man's penis can be damaged, particularly if you're riding him up and down as you squat over him. This is because it's not uncommon for his penis to pop out of your vagina when you are on the upward stroke, and then, if you don't respond in time, you may come crashing down on it. This can do serious damage, including penile fracture.
As with all sexual positions, don't forget the opportunity that woman on top sex gives you to play with your partner's anus, testicles, and clitoris (depending, fairly obviously, on which partner you happen to be).
A Male Opinion
As a man, one of the things I like about woman on top sex is the opportunity to just relax. Don't get me wrong, I do enjoy having sex in almost every position except rear entry, which for some reason makes my penis bend uncomfortably.
It's also very clear to me that sex is more rewarding when I match my mood to the sexual positions we are using.
So, for example, I wouldn't want to have a session of woman on top sex if I was feeling lusty, rampant and needing to "get off". It'd suit me much better when I felt relaxed, had less sense of sexual urgency, perhaps when I was tired or in the early morning.
Certainly, my partner seems to know when she wants woman on top sex she usually climbs on board, looking at me as she does so in case I'm going to object. But she judges it so well that I almost never object!
And really, why would I? To have a loving woman making the effort to give me pleasure during intercourse, while I lie back and "take it like a man" is wonderful.
Very liberating actually. It gives me a different perspective on sex, one where I can see that women are not just delicate creatures, but have rampant sexual energy of their own.
I guess anybody who's explored Tantric sex knows that anyway, but it was an interesting discovery for me the first time it happened. I wouldn't claim that I can last any longer than I can during man on top sex techniques.
This doesn't quite fit with the claims some experts make that man on top sex speeds up ejaculation - in my case, it seems more likely to, well, if not exactly control my orgasm, at least show me how to delay climax so that I can put in a decent sexual performance.
However, if I'm honest about it I am a fairly quick ejaculator anyway, so it may be that using different sex positions wouldn't really make much difference in any case.
One thing I do miss in woman on top sex is the sense of power that I get from being able to stimulate my partner's G spot when I want to, since there are times when I can actually make her orgasm by rubbing it with my erect cock.
No matter how much pleasure I get during woman on top sex there is a missing element the psychological element of dominance, but I do understand that it isn't necessary for me to feel this sensation every time we make love: allowing my partner to be on top and enjoy the ride doesn't take anything away from my masculinity, and it probably allows her to experience another aspect of her emotions that normally she doesn't feel very much.
A Woman's Viewpoint
I've read the comments above by a man, and it's particularly interesting because it's not my partner who wrote that.
It's interesting to read what I've always suspected, which is that men want to be dominant during sex, and they probably choose man on top sex most of the time so that they can feel dominant over their partners.
And I guess a part of that dominance is the fact that women also go along with having sex in the man on top position, rather than choosing what they really want to do.
But I just don't know whether that's true, and I suspect nobody does - it's probably a good research project for this website if you care to do it.
However, you asked me to talk about the advantages of woman on top sex, and I'd say these were all about getting greater pleasure. It's the only position in which my clitoris gets a lot of attention!
Sometimes when my partner's laying back, nice and relaxed, when I'm on top and having a good time, he still feels the need to do something instead of just keeping still and, to be honest, I don't object if he is going to stimulate my clitoris because by now after several years together, he knows exactly how I like him to play with it.
To me there is nothing nicer than a man knowing ways to induce a female orgasm while his penis is inside me. Whether or not he thinks it's important, I do like to climax with him inside me, not least because it fairly quickly triggers a violent and intense orgasm for him, which he tells me is amongst the most pleasurable he can experience.
When we're having man on top, the sex techniques I can use always seem to be much more about his pleasure.
Again, don't get me wrong, it's not that I don't like man on top sex and I do enjoy watching him come, and using those little tricks that all women have to increase the pleasure for their man (I'm talking about vaginal muscle control, playing with his testicles at the right moment, whispering dirty talk in his ear just before he comes, and even sticking a finger into his anus when he's near orgasm, which seems to drive him wild).
It's just that there's a different dynamic to woman on top sex: it feels like I'm allowing a sexual part of me that is not exposed nearly enough to have a chance to express itself the wild woman gets out - and wow, does that feel good!