Different Sex Positions
Kneeling / standing / seated sex positions
Click on the pictures to enlarge them!
This is rear entry sex - very exciting for the man, but perhaps a challenge to enjoy when making love on a bed.
Try this instead: have the man standing beside the bed while the woman kneels on the bed, or just move out of the bedroom and try sex on the sofa, table or floor - see the pictures for some great ideas, that will allow hard rear-entry thrusting; this is sex which hits the G-spot and gives both partners big thrills!
Rear entry sex is even more exciting for the man if his partner shows submissiveness, by lowering her head, letting him pull her hair, or slap her butt. The lower her head, the tighter her vagina, and the greater the pleasure for both the man and the woman.
What's more, intimacy is not something reserved for man on top sex - the couple can kiss without difficulty in many variations of rear entry (see the picture) and the man can play with his partner's clitoris or anus - also illustrated in the pictures of rear entry sex positions, all of which enlarge when you click on them.
When the woman faces away from her male partner, and kneels more upright as he fucks her form behind, he can fondle her breasts and kiss her back, neck and shoulders. Thrusting is challenging but still possible - just make sure you are enjoying your lovemaking on a firm surface! Try having sex on a soft rug on the floor, as the woman braces herself for the thrusts. However, if you find that this is uncomfortable for you, as often happens in rear entry sex, you may find that altering the angle of penetration can make it all feel much better. It's all about the angle of the penis in the vagina - it has to be comfortable for each couple.....so for once, there are no hard and fast rules about the best way to have sex in the rear entry posture!
See how you can enjoy kissing, fondling, holding and oral sex, with breast play and the opportunity to play with the woman's clitoris.....
Furthermore, to add to the man's pleasure, it's entirely possible for the woman to caress and stimulate the man's penis and balls.
Once again stability is important so make sure you're safe and that you do not fall over while you enjoy sex; having the man kneeling on the bed like this can be slightly precarious unless he holds on tightly to his woman, as the bloke in the photograph is doing.
Having said that, when a couple are locked together like this, the man can thrust hard into his woman, who's made herself so open and vulnerable the intensity of this sexual experience: the woman has the thrill of surrendering and opening herself up. For the man there's the thrill of the sight of his partner totally giving herself to him and accepting his sexuality with complete abandonment. It's a very exciting position, and, provided you're flexible, well worth trying.
Speaking of flexibility, if you look at the picture below you'll see that the man's penis, although erect, is bent downward because of the angle of his partner's body: this can produce exquisite stimulation for the woman because it put much more pressure on her G spot, but it may be difficult for the man if he has a hard erection (something common to men with a penis that is smaller than average), but once again it's a different sex position that's well worth trying at least once, just because the different angles between yours and your partner's body can produce unique and very enjoyable sexual stimulation.
Shown below are some interesting variations on kneeling sex positions. What you can see straight away is that the partners actually have the opportunity for a great deal more intimacy, being able to kiss, caress and fondle each other in a way that adds to the enjoyment of sex for them both - a major difference to the rear entry positions.
If either partner gets carried away with intense sexual urges, a quick drop into the position shown on the bottom right allows man to thrust hard and fast whilst fondling his partner's buttocks, taking him to a swift and powerful orgasm and ejaculating deep inside her.....
Oh yes! Did I mention that rear entry is the sexual position - in all its forms - that allows the deepest penetration? For those of you who are into "getting right inside", this is a sex position that can truly be described as the first amongst equals!
A question that people have asked me from time to time over the years in my lectures is whether or not standing sex is any good? I think by that they mean "is it exciting"!
Well, standing sex has an association of urgency, perhaps a slight risk of being seen, especially if you're enjoying it outdoors in a public place. (Naturally I don't condone exhibitionism, although I know only too well how exciting it can be to make love outdoors!) As to the excitement factor, well, that's something that you can actually discover for yourselves perfectly well at home. No doubt men with a tendency to ejaculate quickly, and who wish to avoid the embarrassment of rapid ejaculation, will need to seek out some treatment that will calm their over-excitbale sexual system down and allow them to last longer in bed.
What do you do when you come home horny as heck, wanting sex desperately, and you can't wait to get through the front door before you have each others' clothes off? Why not simply stand in your hallway, lift her skirt, drop her panties, open your flies, and thrust away!
Sex like this is certainly a lot easier if a couple are ideally matched in height, and the angle of the woman's vagina matches the angle of the man's erection.
If the man's too short to enter her, then she needs to bend her knees, which can be tiring if sustained for any period of time -- it's much easier for her simply to bend forward at the waist. If, by contrast, he's too tall to enter her, then she needs to stand on something so that he has access to her vulva.
Nonetheless, what you'll probably find is that standing sex is not as thrilling when you orgasm as some other different sex positions, unless you're extremely aroused before you start. This is because it just doesn't give the opportunity for a couple to build up sexual tension with extensive foreplay -- but then perhaps that's entirely the point! Standing sex is urgent, quick sex, for the relief of sexual tension. It's basically a quick wank for each partner, though the shortness of this sex may mean that a woman doesn't come, and she's just doing it for her own excitement and the pleasure of her man.
As I said above there aren't actually any rules about how to do sex... although a lot of couples actually make rules for themselves, simply by having sex in the same way and in the same position over and over again every time they make love. So I would encourage you to look at the photographs on this page: consider them with your partner, and have fun experimenting with some of more unusual ones.
It's not likely that you would think of sex on a chair in the way shown in the photograph above, but if you do try to make sure you're strong enough to support yourselves... having said that I think you'd agree it does look exciting....
But really, overall, one of the advantages of standing sex is the fact that it's different and introduces variation into a couple's sex life, and that's always extremely welcome because the one thing we've found time and time again is that absence of good sex causes a relationship to falter.
People often think that the absence of sex in a relationship is an indication that a relationship is failing. My opinion is that it's the other way round: a relationship fails because a couple allow sex to get boring - it becomes less important, they get bored with what they're doing, most likely the same old thing every time.....and it all becomes too samey samey...
Another great feature of of standing sex positions is the opportunity it gives the man to actually change his position and his partner's position so as to enable maximum G spot stimulation. (The same is actually true of rear entry sex, which has the added advantage of exposing the woman totally to her partner's appreciative gaze.)
What about sitting sex positions?
This seems to be one of the least tried and least experimented with group of sex positions but it's great for people who are less able-bodied, as well as everybody else who wants to do something different, something a little bit more exciting and unusual than the run-of-the-mill man on top, for example.
it's possible to enjoy sex in the sitting
position with either the woman facing her partner, or the woman sitting on
her partner's lap, facing away from him. In either case, as you can see
from the photos above, kissing is possible but the advantage of the woman
facing the man position is that the bloke can see himself penetrating his
In the initial stages of sex, if a woman feels loving and romantic, she can make the sexual rhythm slow and easy; in the later stages of sex, when she's more aroused, she can speed things up and give her man and herself a rollicking session of exciting passionate sex.
It's not as the easy to make love in a soft armchair or sofa, but it is possible, and with a little bit of imagination, and some experimentation, perhaps draping yourself around the chair, you will find some way that's exciting -- just make sure that you don't let semen spurt onto the fabric -- it's not very easy to get the stain out and I think if your guests see it, they'll have a pretty good idea what it might be!
One of the most interesting variations of sitting sex is the one shown whether man is sitting with his legs over the edge of the bed and the woman is kneeling over his lap while supporting herself with her hands on his knees. I think this photo gives lie to the statement, often heard, that they are only five basic sex positions -- the reality is that there are many possible variations, and actually hundreds of sex positions.
Is this one rear entry, or is it sitting, or is it kneeling? Or in fact, does it matter at all? The truth is that the best sex position for you is the sex position that suits your different genitals, build, interests, degree of inhibition, and intention for sex.
By that I mean you may want to simply get your rocks off, or you may want to give your partner an orgasm, or you may want to engage in some kind of Tantric practice that allows sexual energy to flow around your body whilst you engage in chakra energy exchange with your partner.
Because you have so many possible reasons to enjoy sex, it's well worth booking time in your diary to enjoy it and then extending the experience so that you don't just go through the usual routine of ten minutes' foreplay, penetration, orgasm, a little bit of cuddling afterwards and then separation.
Instead, why not make sex like a festival day: book a full day at home or in a hotel, and then try some of the things that you've thought about - perhaps using toys, perhaps extended Tantric sex, perhaps trying many different positions before you finally reach orgasm - and extend your sexual experience to the boundaries of what's acceptable to you, so that you can enjoy a different experience.
One important tip which I'd like to offer Is the Importance of the Woman Having Control of Her Internal Vaginal Muscles. She can also lengthen or shorten her vagina by bringing her legs higher or lower, and she can transfer energy back and forth between herself and her partner using visualization techniques.
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In the face-to-face seated position, it's possible for a man to sit on the edge of the bed (or indeed on a chair) which permits the woman to sit astride him. There is deep penetration to be enjoyed in this position, as well as some other advantages which may not be initially obvious.
To start with, he's able to kiss her breasts with his mouth, and all his erotic areas except his anus are within her reach; equally, he can reach all the erogenous zones on her body, particularly her back, very easily indeed. And if a couple are of heavy build, they'll find a sitting sex position extremely useful in achieving deep penetration.
So sitting positions can feel less exciting for a man because there's less tension in the vagina around his penis: the way to make up for this is the woman to learn the art of internal muscle control -- Look up Kegel exercises on the Internet.
Another great thing about sitting sex is that if you start off on a sofa, kissing and cuddling, full-blown sex is an easy transition to make, if you feel so inclined. In particular, the man is able to run his hands over his partner's body, and round her soft fleshy buttocks, which can arouse both partners and speed the transition into some heavy duty sexual action!
And an intimate position face-to-face sex is always nice because you can kiss each, other talk to each other, and enjoy a sense of intimacy whilst you make love.
It's also possible for the woman to ride her partner's penis if she takes the position shown left top during sex. He must lean back to balance her weight: if he leans back far enough, she will not need to use one hand behind her as depicted here to support herself.
She can then give sex an added thrill by riding up and down his cock - this has the benefit of putting her in charge of the pace and timing of his orgasm and perhaps her own, if she can reach a high enough level of arousal to achieve orgasm as she rides him. (Though this may, of course, depend on how long he can keep going before he comes! Hint - if you need premature ejaculation control techniques, skills that will help you find ways to overcome premature ejaculation for men, this is the place to find them.)
These are all variations on kneeling sex. Some variations are good for kissing, caressing and even gazing into each other's eyes. He has a superb opportunity to fondle her breasts if she leans back slightly. And, should raw passion take over, he can lower her onto the bed and the couple can complete their lovemaking in classic man on top position with hard and/or deep penile thrusting as they choose!
If you'd like to read a personal account of some different sex positions, try Sarah's frank and funny website.