Different Sex Positions
Man On Top
Man On Top Sex Positions & Sexual Techniques
You know, even though this website is about sex positions, there are many different aspects to a successful sexual relationship that go beyond the physical.
For one thing, good communication is important, and so is having great intimacy with your partner – which relies on both of you being emotionally open and honest with each other, and in particular, discharging any hostility or negative emotion you feel towards each other.
You are not going to get the most out of different sexual techniques unless the emotional foundation of your relationship's solid. Here's a place where you can get some information about that.
And another point – we strongly recommend that you view this website with your partner and discuss everything.
That way, it'll be a bit like an ancient Japanese pillow book, the sexually arousing book given to newlywed couples to look at together, so they could get over their embarrassment before they got into bed.
However, having said that, this website is primarily about sex positions, so let's have a look at some other aspects of most people's favorite group of sexual postures: variations of man on top. But first, a few thoughts on the context of this information.
One thing that worries experts a great deal is that adolescent boys are learning about lovemaking from porn films on the Internet. I mean, let's face it, there's some pretty horrible stuff out there that goes well beyond the bounds of a normal sexual relationship.
It isn't just different, it's really perverted – by which I mean it just doesn't represent normal human relationships. The problem is boys don't have any way to contextualize this stuff, and at least some of them will be thinking that it's actually part of a normal relationship.
Unfortunately, some of the girls out there may be thinking that too, so much so that some schools are now choosing to provide lessons in how men should treat women (as in, hitting them is not normal)!
That's why we like to think of this website as a kind of bastion against the abusive images of lovemaking that are so common these days. A strategy which may fail when it comes to imparting sexual techniques information, but hey ho, how we try!
And you know what, if you take that a stage further, another problem is that there's no creativity or variation in what you see – there's nothing different. It's in out, in out, in out, in out..... ohhhh!
In reality, there's a lot to be said for varying the way you connect physically with your partner when you're having sex. In other words, use different approaches, different ways of making love, and different sexual techniques.
So how are you going to do this? Well, one way is to drop the idea of vigorous thrusting and do something different. You can rub the head of your penis between the inner lips of your partner's vulva, and up onto her clitoris, using her natural lubrication to soften the motion.
This is incredibly stimulating for both partners, and many women find it extremely erotic if the man ejaculates as a result of this exciting and sexy movement.
And you can also ring the changes just by dipping the end of your penis into the outer part of your partner's vagina: that's actually the most sensitive part anyway, and if you get the movement just right, using the right position, it's actually possible to get her to orgasm without coming yourself - at least, until she starts to orgasm, after which you might find it difficult to stop yourself tipping into a massive climax.
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Yet another variation which you can use to particular advantage in man on top sex positions is to alternate deep thrusts and shallow thrusts, for example by thrusting deeply five times and then much more shallowly five times: that can also help you control your progress towards ejaculation.
And finally you can do something different with your hips: instead of thrusting your pelvis backwards and forwards vigorously with deep penetration, why not try just moving your hips in a circle?
It's an old Taoist trick which, I think I'm right in saying, is known as "churning the butter". You can read about Taoist sexual techniques here, and if you have any physical problems such as gout you can read about how to deal with those too - click here for a gout diet.
Finally, on the subject of sexual intercourse and thrusting, please remember that slippery sex is good lovemaking, and not all women produce as much natural lubricant as might be comfortable.
There are, however, a large number of what are known euphemistically as "personal lubricants" available. You'll enjoy sex more when you have the right lube, be it natural or artificial!
Furthermore, it is helpful to recall that some male sexual dysfunctions can be attributed to the issue of sexual position.
Those which a man finds very arousing are likely to make him ejaculate quickly - those which he finds less so may give him greater staying power. In general it is hard to recommend any particular position for men with delayed ejaculation - which means an unduly long delay in reaching climax.
There is however some useful information for men here - a website all about delayed ejaculation treatment - which may help enormously in solving the problem if you happen to have this particular dysfunction.
The essence of that approach is to ensure high physiological arousal. So for the man, the partner's hands should lightly and timidly brush the mons pubis, the inner side of the thighs, the sexual organs and pass at once to the other side by a cautious and circuitous route, perhaps seeking out admittance to the anal area if desired.
Conversely, arousal is achieved by seeking the wife's vulva, so that her genital organs become accessible.
The excitement caused by the previous caressing will probably have caused a certain degree of lubrication and increased blood supply.
When this stage has been reached the man can touch the clitoris, which, already excited by the love play, though not hitherto directly touched, is congested and enlarged.
The slightest touch yields marked excitement which intensifies desire to an incalculable degree.
This form of stimulation, together with words of love, kisses, and other love-play, may be extended to the whole genital area.
But more often than not the titillation of the clitoris affords the woman the greatest excitement.
At the height of passion and emotion the man can insert his penis into the vagina and, with forward and backward thrusting, coitus replaces the preparatory love-play.
We have seen how the tongue kiss can be employed to caress the partner's mouth or body.
And it is often used as a means of genital stimulation, the advantage of this kiss is that it provides natural lubrication.
And this is most helpful in those cases where the genital lubrication is inadequate.
Lack of adequate lubrication renders friction of clitoris and vagina painful, both during love-play and - still more - during actual coitus.
Artificial preparations are often used in substitution for the natural lubricant when this is obviously delayed or insufficient. The object, of course, is to avoid irritation or hurt, by making the parts smooth.
Many of the preparations used for this purpose have proved far from satisfactory, and actually tend to promote the very irritation they are designed to prevent.
Some are not easily removed, even by fairly vigorous washing, and so may remain until they become rancid. Vaseline, which is often recommended for this purpose, does not become rancid, but it is not soluble in water, and is therefore not easily washed off. Preparations which can be dissolved by the application of water are much to be preferred.
Anything which serves to interrupt intercourse is to be avoided. This applies to many contraceptive techniques; it is important that their application should be done as unobtrusively and naturally as possible.
That is why lubrication of the genital parts is best performed by means of a caress which is productive of pleasure to both parties.
It cannot be too strongly stressed that any caress calculated to overcome fear in a hitherto inexperienced woman must be applied with the greatest gentleness.
The one thing to be avoided at all costs, when dealing with an inexperienced partner, is doing or saying anything which is likely to repel her in any shape or form.
The man has to be exceedingly cautious in love-play. He must guard against anything too adventurous too soon; especially where more intimate forms of love-play are involved.
When dealing with a genuinely inexperienced woman, hasten slowly is a good rule to follow.
Variations of the Man on Top Sexual Techniques
So what we're aiming to do here is to show you that your approach to lovemaking and coitus can be different.
You might enjoy using the same old lovemaking position, but you don't have to carry on doing things the same way.
And there are good reasons why you shouldn't - the evidence suggests that couples who vary their sexual routine will stay together longer and enjoy better sex, and more powerful orgasms too, for that matter.
So, for example, while you might think that a woman's pelvic movements are restricted during man on top sex, and that she can't actually thrust very much (compared to, say, the way that perhaps she can during rear entry sex), that's only true up to a point.
When her man is not actually lying on top of her, as in some of the photographs below, she does have the opportunity to move reasonably freely.
Please excuse the rather "stagey" photos; better ones are on the way.
However, if you're the female partner, you might not even want to do that, because being purely receptive can be very fulfilling. And that's an approach to sex positions and sex techniques which is great, but you may want to try a different way from time to time.
Yes, regardless of what feminists may say, it can be very rewarding for a woman to give herself over completely to the idea of "being taken" by her man and embracing him fully as he does so.
I want to emphasize that while there may be many people out there who think this is prehistoric, caveman type of attitude to lovemaking, there's nothing wrong with actually expressing your most basic desires, wishes, and needs.
So, if you're a woman who wants to be taken, who wants to be filled, who wants to be dominated, then for goodness' sake allow yourself to act it out once in awhile.
And, if you're a man who wants to take a woman and dominate completely during sex, then act that out as well – with your partner's agreement.
Of course, in saying that, I'm assuming that all of this is done in a loving relationship between partners who understand each other.
You can play with the darker edges of sex in various ways, within or without a relationship, but that's not really the subject of this website. This is a place where you can get some information on that alternative approaches to sexual techniques f you're interested.
If you're just looking for more conventional advice on relationships, then check out either of the following two sites.
First, Joshua Pellicer's remarkable site about dating and relationships, called The Tao Of Badass. I don't like the title, because it implies a way of being with women which I don't like the sound of - however, I have to admit that he is a man who has got the art of seduction off to a "T".
The fact is, surprisingly enough, that the things which keep relationships together can also be the ones which bring a couple back together when they have split. And those very same things can add a lot of romance to a relationship.
Variations On Man On Top Lovemaking To Give You Different Sensations
Both man and woman can influence man on top sex in many ways. The simplest variation is for the woman to move her legs back, and the man can kneel instead of laying down; these are both variations on sexual techniques give different sensations and different depths of penetration.
Of course these things also alter the angle at which his penis enters her vagina, and this can be very significant in giving both partners extra pleasure. In fact, it's probably true to say that one of the big variations in every lovemaking position is the angle at which the man's erection enters his partner's body.
Some erections curve up, some curve down, and some are just straight ahead. Some men's erections point to the sky, and some point down the floor. Some erections are stiff, and others are more flexible. Unfortunately there's no way of advising an individual couple on how these differences can affect their sexual enjoyment – you really have to experiment to find out.
But what a beautiful thing to play with!
Another variation comes from a woman's ability to squeeze her internal vaginal muscles while her man is inside her or while he thrusts – to give both herself and her partner great pleasure.
And something else about using different techniques, or rather, variations of the same position: different positions convey different meanings to the partners who are having sex.
So for example, when a woman wraps her legs around her man's back as he thrusts into her during man on top sex, she manages to convey a message which says something like, "Fu** me hard, I want you in me."
So her man might find this incredibly arousing.
If she raises her legs and puts them on the man's shoulders as he kneels in front of her, then the message is a bit different: maybe something like "I give myself to you, enjoy looking at my vulva and ass, it's great to expose myself to you because I trust you."
Those don't necessarily need to be verbal messages of course – I'm talking about what one partner infers from the way the other moves during sex.
If the woman's hips are raised during man on top lovemaking, the sensations will be quite different, because it alters the angle of her vagina, and therefore puts different pressure on his penis and her internal G spot.
Such variations may make it possible for her to reach orgasm during sexual intercourse.
One of the great things about man on top sex is the fact that it gives both partners the chance to look each other in the eyes during lovemaking.
You don't have to spend all your time looking into each other's eyes while you're having sex, but it can certainly be great fun and very intimate to share a few minutes' gaze. This is a powerful sexual technique.
It's also quite interesting to see what happens during sex if you try and send a message to each other with your eyes.
So if you're a man, try sending the following message without speaking, just communicating by the way that you look at your partner: "I want to possess you completely, body and soul, take you deeply, and make you mine."
And if you're a woman, try sending this message without speaking: "I give myself completely to you, take me completely, body and soul, and make me yours." You can increase the power, rudeness, and directness of language if you want to suit your own tastes. You might be surprised what happens.
Now, of all the lovemaking positions, man on top can convey your love for each other, with tender kisses from the man to the woman, either on her mouth or her breasts, or for that matter on any other part of her body within reach; there's so much skin to skin contact that man on top sex can truly provide the intimacy and sense of touch that we all desperately need in life but don't get often enough.
In short, the naked skin to skin contact and the intimacy of fucking in man on top sexual techniques can provide some of the most powerful expressions of sex in a relationship.
As always with sex positions, care is needed to ensure you are having safe lovemaking - if you don't know your partner well, and you don't trust him or her, then ensure that what looks like a yeast infection isn't really some more serious sexually transmitted disease.
You need to protect yourself from the possibility that you may pick up or cross infect each other. You can get information on sexually transmitted diseases here and on yeast infection from a program called yeast infection no more.
The information imparted on the website should help you to develop your own ways of controlling pain and therefore being able to please your partner more in bed....which means more orgasms for her - and greater sexual pleasure for you!
Good Health Means Good Sex
It just isn't possible to enjoy great sex positions when you have a health problem. And yet health issues creep up on all of us even when we aren't expecting them - they are a matter of chance and good (or bad) fortune.
But they can have massive consequences on all aspects of your life - including your lovemaking life. For example, a hiatal hernia can seriously impact your ability to enjoy man on top sex - if the woman is affected with the problem - and arthritis can impact on your ability to enjoy side by side sex.
Nothing, for me, was as powerful a reminder of the fact that I was ageing as the impact that these apparently minor conditions had on my flexibility, suppleness, and ultimate enjoyment of lovemaking.
I strongly advice you to seek either professional medical care or an effective self-help treatment when these problems strike!
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Even More Ways to Improve Man on Top Sex Positions
There are some interesting variations of position that you can use in man on top sex. For example, look at the first picture below in which you can see that the woman has raised her knees and braced her feet against the bed.
That's going to give her more opportunity to exert leverage as her man enters and thrusts, so she can move more freely, and she can express her sexual feelings more easily in the way she moves.
Equally, the following variations allow the man to see his partner's vulva, buttocks and anus more easily, which may be very exciting for him.
And some variations of man top lovemaking allow the partners to stimulate the woman's clitoris directly so that she is more likely to reach orgasm as they make love.
This may be very important for a woman – and it's also important for a woman to remember that unless she expresses her needs, wishes and desires, her partner isn't going to know what she wants.
It's a mistake women often make: thinking that a man can second-guess what they want, or somehow pick up the clues she's dropping.
If she needs clitoral stimulation to come, and she wants to come, then she has to say so! I've got news for you ladies: you're never going to get what you want if dropping clues is how you go about telling your man what you'd like him to do!
It's also helpful to change sexual techniques during lovemaking. Different sex positions can add variation and excitement to your love making, partly because you change the angle of the penis in the vagina, which in turn alters the physical sensations that you both get.
And it's one of those little sexual tricks and techniques that can add extra stimulation and excitement to both partners.
If the man's got a tendency towards premature ejaculation, then taking a break can also be helpful in re-establishing control and slowing down his progress towards orgasm.
Conversely, if a man has any difficulty in reaching orgasm and ejaculating, man on top sex positions can be helpful in providing a little more excitement and arousal for him than some others.
It's not likely that a man with a severe case of delayed ejaculation would be able to achieve orgasm from changing sexual position alone, more that he needs to make sure the odds are stacked in his favor by using every possible aspect of lovemaking to his advantage.
This might include deep penetration, hard thrusting, intimate lovemaking, and the arousal of man on top sex.
You could think of this way of reaching orgasm and ejaculating as a holistic way of treating delayed ejaculation - and there's more about difficulty reaching orgasm on the blog you can find on that link.
Improving the missionary position
This is the most popular lovemaking position, and it also just happens to be one with lots of different variations. Below we list the most popular variations in order.
Of course the basic reason the missionary or man on top sex position is so popular is that it is the most natural way of making love that we have as a species!
The woman is comfortable on her back while being attended to by her partner, lying between her legs and supporting himself, which allows them to talk, look at each other lovingly or lustfully, see how they each respond to the lovemaking, and enjoy the natural intimacy that flows form this connection.
The male partner also enjoys a degree of dominance, which is probably how most couples like to experience their lovemaking: but unfortunately, movement is somewhat restricted, especially for the woman.
A thick pillow under the woman's bottom raises her hips and makes her vulva available for cunnilingus; while if the couple wish to make love in the same position, he can kneel and thrust easily (often easier if he has one leg out behind him and is kneeling on one knee only).
From the basic missionary position, with a cushion under the woman's bottom, there are several easy differences in sexual technique you can adopt:
1 The woman wraps her legs up and around the man's waist.
2 The woman places one leg on each of her partner's shoulders.
3 The woman lifts her legs in the air vertically and holds them wide open. If she then moves them energetically as she or her partner approach orgasm, the additional stimulation can be mind-blowing.
4 The woman places both her legs onto one of the man's shoulders.
5 The woman crosses her legs behind the man's legs
6 The woman brings her legs together and the man keeps his legs outside hers. This may help her reach orgasm, though penetration will not be as deep.
7 The woman crosses her legs in the yoga position known as the 'lotus' - this opens her vagina but stops her partner thrusting too deeply.
8 The woman lifts her legs and bends her knees, then puts her feet on her partner's hips.
9 The woman presses her legs against her partner's hips.