Different Sex Positions
If there's one thing that interests all of us, it's information about sex positions. The search term "sex positions" receives about 10,000 searches a day on Google, and throws up about 3 million results. If anything else, this is certainly proof of how interested people are in learning about sex, whether they're in a long term relationship or not. And you know what? It's not hard to understand why: sex is one of the most fun things we can do with another human being, but at the same time it is one of the things that we find most difficult, challenging, and sometimes embarrassing or even shameful.
Well, we're here to make trying different sex positions fun!
We will show you loads of different sex positions, ones that you might not have seen or tried so far. We have lots of sex tips and techniques, as well as guidance about what makes different sex positions pleasurable for different people. Another difference between us and some of the sites that you might have seen on the Internet is that we are all about making sex joyous and fun!
A lot of porn sites depict sexual relationships in quite a dark way, with the woman often looking like she's not having a great time at the end of the (usually) very well endowed stud who's fucking her.
So we've taken care to make sure that all our positions pictures depict models who are enjoying themselves and who respect and like each other. Our sex positions information is based on years of experience working with couples, and we've employed a whole team of experienced sex experts to put the material on this site together for you. So, whether you're looking for sex positions information to help you start out in your sex life, or whether you're looking for sex positions information to make your relationship more passionate, exciting and fun, we can probably help you.
So if you're ready for an exciting ride, read on… we start with information about everybody's favorite sex position, man on top!
Man On Top Sex Positions
Although we don't like the term ourselves, you've probably heard the man on top position being referred to as the "missionary position". But just in case you're one of the few billion people on this planet who've been living without an Internet connection for the last few years, and you don't know where this term comes from, the story goes – and we think it's an urban myth – that when the first missionaries went out to, well who knows where?, in, well who knows when?, they found the native peoples having sex in all kinds of bizarre positions – my goodness, even squatting or sitting! Those missionaries being the kind of people they were, wanted the natives to have sex with the man on top and the woman lying on her back underneath him. And so the native peoples, probably having a jolly good laugh all the way to their huts, apparently named the man top sex position the missionary position.
In our view, it's much more likely that the missionaries thought the right place for women in society was underneath the man in every other way, and extended that viewpoint to the domination of women by men during sex. (Although, as we shall see, that domination can be pleasurable… hate to say it, but maybe those missionaries knew something after all!)
Anyway, whether the story's true or not is irrelevant. We haven't been able to find any evidence to back the story up, but one thing that we do know for sure is that the man top position remains everybody's best sex position. It's the position in which we have more sex, more often, than any other position, and so there must be some pretty powerful reasons why it's so pleasurable. (See the most commonly used sex positions here.)
In our never-ending pursuit of sexual pleasure, we've extensively researched this, and we think we know why man on top sex positions are so popular. For one thing, men like to dominate women during sex. Sure, they may not want to do that all the time, and they may like their woman to ride them every so often, but in the main men want to feel dominant during sex: and one way to get that feeling is to be on top during sex, imagining they're holding their partner down while thrusting deep into her body.
Equally, women want to be protected and loved, they don't want to feel vulnerable during sex, and guess what? Many women say that man on top sex makes them feel safe and secure, and very often this helps them to melt into their feelings of being loved by their partner. And it makes sense that men find this position satisfying, because Mother Nature wants nothing more than to have a man to ejaculate quickly and deeply into his partner's pussy, so as to increase the chances of her getting pregnant.
The man top sex position takes all those boxes: men can thrust deeply, and they very often cannot control themselves in bed in this position. That might make it helpful for men with delayed ejaculation - let's just look at why in a little bit more detail.
The basic man on top position has the woman lying on her back with the man on top of her taking at least some of his weight on his forearms or hands. Usually, his legs are positioned between his partner's, although they can sometimes be placed outside her legs.
In this position the man can thrust deeply, and the further back woman takes her legs, the more deeply he can penetrate her. You can see what we mean by this in series of photographs below. The further back her legs, the more she presents herself to her partner's viewpoint - arousing? I should say so!
Now here's the interesting thing: of all the things that make men ejaculate quickly, muscular tension and deep penetration are probably right at the top of the list. The more the man supports himself above his partner's body, and the harder he thrusts, the more tension there will be in his body, and the more likely he is to ejaculate quickly. See below for an illustration of two sex postures which show this.
(Faster ejaculation on the left, maybe? Compared to a slower route to climax - probably - in the second picture, but in the third, the deeper penetration achieved with her legs back may speed things up even though he's not supporting his weight as much. Arguably, the deep penetration and muscular tension the guy's feeling from supporting his own weight in the fourth picture will result in the fastest climax of all....)
Combine this with the deep penetration is possible in this position and you have a recipe for a man not lasting very long, but certainly having a powerful orgasm and ejaculating with great force in a very satisfying way… at least to him, if not his partner (though many women say how powerful they find it to watch their partner when he comes like this).
What's more, if the woman keeps her legs together and the man puts his legs outside hers, this naturally has the effect of tightening her vagina around his penis, which will also make him come in no time at all.
Now while a tight vagina might be useful if you happen to be man who suffers from delayed or retarded ejaculation, it's not really so great if you're an average man who tends to come within about two minutes of penetration. So what are you going to do about this? It's actually not hard to learn to slow your climax down and learn how to last longer in bed for men, but it does depend on choosing the right sex position, and it does depend on some other factors like the tightness of your partner's vagina and the depth of penetration, as we've already mentioned.
Men: If You Want To Make Love For Longer Choose The Right Sex Position
First of all, you need to have as little tension in your muscles as possible, so find out how much weight your partner can take.
Second, have her keep her legs wide apart, so that her vagina is somewhat looser, and doesn't grip your penis as tightly. That may mean that you don't get as much sensation, but there again it may mean that you're able to thrust longer before you ejaculate. (For techniques to give you greater ejaculation control see www.staying-power.com) Here you can see some ideas for variations of this position where she keep her legs apart:
These images don't really show positions where the man is relaxed - where he is putting his weight on his partner.
Now, of course you may want the pleasure of tightness:
Third, cultivate a relaxed approach to lovemaking. If you want to prolong the time before you reach your orgasm, don't thrust hard and vigorously, but take a more relaxed approach to moving in and out of your partner's vagina: try to adopt a sort of loose swinging movement of the buttocks. It's hard to describe what we mean by this, but practice makes perfect, and when you hit on it you'll know just what we mean. It's a more relaxed movement back and forth from the hips, rather than deep thrusting from the pelvis. In the first picture, the man has more opportunity for a relaxed movement than in the second one, where it looks as though his only way of enjoying the rhythm of sex is to thrust from his pelvis. And - make no mistake - that will be highly enjoyable, but again, it may make him come too quickly.
You can also learn some simple breathing techniques and some simple PC muscle control techniques that will allow you to last longer. One good way, however is to reach the verge of ejaculation, and then to pull right out of your partner. If you wait until your arousal has dropped – really dropped, that is – and then carry on making love, you often find that you can continue for much longer as the urge to ejaculate is weakened when you get right to the edge of coming and then don't actually do so. If you want to check out a great program for ejaculation control, try www.waystostoppeindays.com for some fabulous ejaculation control tips!
The photographs below show a series of positions in which the woman moves her legs up and over over the man's back while he maintains more or less the same position. Remember that the further back her legs go, the deeper the penetration, and therefore potentially at least, the quicker you'll come. It's also useful to remember that these positions become more and more arousing as the woman opens up her vulva to your view, and that's an additional source of arousal that will also probably help make you come quite quickly.
What Size Is It?
Now, we ought to mention the question of penis size here, before we go any further. It's a sad fact that not all men are created equal. And, as you very well know, most men consider themselves to be below average size when erect.
Unfortunately there's a lot of truth in that, because by definition half of all men actually are below average size. And that's one of the reasons why we can't take this question too seriously: we know women don't view it as anything like as important as most men, and yet we can't dismiss it either, just because cock size is so jolly important to most men.
But here's the thing: a man can satisfy a woman whether his penis is 4 inches long or 8 inches long; all he needs to know are the right techniques and tools.
For men, the question of penis size and sexual satisfaction is never about how women see this issue – it's about how men see it. And unfortunately, men do tend to equate penis size with personal power or masculinity, and it's that equation which can make a man think he's not a good lover. If this applies to you, then you need to be adapting your technique and using different sex positions according to how long your erect cock is.
There's not a lot you can do if you have a very thick penis , except ask your partner to keep her legs wide apart, although she might actually like the sense of fullness. (If women do have a preference around penis size, it seems to be for thickness rather than length, although if a woman's PC muscles are fit and active, she will most likely be able to feel any man inside her no matter how thin or thick his erection is.)
The problem is that having a long penis isn't actually as much of a good thing as many men imagine it to be. It's actually pretty damn' painful for a woman if the man's thrusting hard and hits her cervix – or at least, it can be if she's not extremely aroused.
Men who have a long penis need to find a sex position in which they actually can't thrust to their full extent: if the sex position he's using allows the woman to keep her thighs together around the base of his shaft, then he does get the illusion of deep penetration and it can feel very good to him because the whole of his penile shaft is being sexually stimulated.
As you'll have guessed, in man on top sex where the woman has her legs back and up, and the man lies on top of her, there may be very deep penetration, so these may not be suitable for a well-endowed guy. You'll see in the picture below a position that does help to prevent a man penetrating his partner very deeply; and there's another sex position on the woman on top page which has much the same effect.
On the other hand, if you're a man with a small endowment, then the sexual positions that give you the opportunity for the deepest penetration can be the most fulfilling for both you and your partner, in which case you might benefit by asking your partner to move her legs back.
Other positions which are variations of the man on top, but which don't allow the man to achieve very deep penetration, are the ones where the man is kneeling - see these in the pictures below. Unless you're very flexible indeed, the positions shown below can be both satisfying and prevent too-deep penetration.
Orgasm During Intercourse? Does It Depend On Position?
Unless you're a man with any kind of delayed ejaculation (aka retarded ejaculation) problem, you'll certainly expect to reach orgasm and ejaculate during sexual intercourse each time you have sex, and certainly regardless of the sex position that you're enjoying. But guys, we have some bad news! It just ain't the same for women.
Although there are a lot of people around who would have you believe otherwise, there are very few women who can reach orgasm during intercourse due to the thrusting of their partner alone. In fact, we put this number at around one woman in 20. Certainly more women can come if either the woman or her partner stimulates her clitoris with a hand, finger or vibrator during sex, but most women don't reach orgasm during sex, regardless of the sexual position they are using. However, a revolutionary program called Orgasm By Command by Lloyd Lester may well help you achieve orgasm in no time at all! Check out a review of Orgasm By Command here.
Now, it can be very enjoyable indeed for a couple to reach orgasm together, or more-or-less together, but it isn't that easy. If a woman is very aroused when the man penetrates her, and if her clitoris is stimulated during sex, then you both have a chance of reaching orgasm in the same sort of timescale. But one of the problems that a man has is that as the woman with whom he's making love gets more and more aroused, her arousal feeds back to him and increases his own arousal, making him likely to come even quicker than he usually would.
But there is a sex position with the man on top in which you don't have to stimulate the woman's clitoris and which can help you to enjoy the woman's orgasm whilst making love. This is a different position to normal, and it's called the coital alignment technique.
The Coital Alignment Technique (CATs and Pussies)
Ah, the CAT! In all the years that we've been educating and informing people about sex, we've never really seen a clear explanation of the CAT. So we now take it upon ourselves, in keeping with our endless enthusiasm for informing people about the benefits and disadvantages of various sex positions, to provide one.
Here is the key: the stimulation of the woman's clitoris that can result in her having an orgasm while her partner is still inside her isn't anything to do with hand play, finger movement, a sex toy, or a vibrator.
It's actually provided by the man's body pressing on her clitoris as the couple make love. And here's how it's done: the area of the man's body that presses on his partner's clitoris is his Mons Pubis, which is the area just above where his erect penis emerges from his body. It's the area underneath his pubic hair, in fact.
To get this area of his body over his partner's clitoris, after the man has entered her, he has to shift his body upwards so that these two areas can press together. And then, when he is sure that his pubis is over his partner's clitoris, he doesn't thrust....instead, the couple adopt a sort of rocking motion so that when he presses down, she partly gives way; and when she moves her pelvis so that her vulva moves up again, he gently rocks upwards as well.
It's hard to describe, and it's actually quite hard to learn, but once you get the knack of it, it's easy to enjoy this very different movement during intercourse. As we said, it's not thrusting, it's rocking.